Let’s begin with BA’s story today. She is a Lagos Convo fan and has decided to share this with us;
I got my B tech in 2010 and finished my NYSC in 2011, when it seemed a job was not forth coming as I hoped, I went into fashion designing training which by God’s grace I was able to catch on fast.
About 6 months into my training, with help from my mum and some of her associates, I got an admin job with a construction company that owed me for the entire 4 months I was with them. At the end of my 4th month there, I had exhausted all my savings, patience and trust in “one man” establishment.
I left the place, but I could not go back to my fashion design program, I had to take up a teaching offer, practically forcing myself on the proprietress who placed me as a teacher to Basic 2. Two months after that, I got a call from a friend I had lost contact with and she asked for my CV, she sent it to her sister and now I have a job with a very good company, now getting a good salary.
I want to advance like every other person and since I have an Agric background, finding myself in Admin roles, I am looking forward to getting some professional qualifications and masters too. I am open to ideas too from you all.
Also, I feel I have more to offer than what I am being asked to do now and I hope with time, more responsibilities would come my way and I can find fulfillment at work. I am not complaining though, I thank God for where I am.
My point of wanting to share this story is to advise us all to cherish friendship, people, family and opportunities, my friend that got me this job was a God sent at that time but little issues almost made me lose the opportunity because at the time of her call, we had not talked for about 2 years.
Everyone we meet and associate with are for a particular reason, if not to be blessed by them, then to be blessed by us.
Thanks for letting me share!
Oftentimes, in anger, we tear down relationships and walk away, sad and broken from the gravity of offence we feel per time. The truth about life is that no man is an island, nobody is perfect, offences must come but we still need one another to make advancements in career, business and otherwise. For some offences, time heals and knowledge, maturity and information make them less painful in retrospect. Also, it is kind of awkward to communicate with someone across a burnt emotional bridge so you are unable to leverage past relationships because you were so angry that you completely cut the person or people off. So you’re looking at someone in an organization or even in aso rock and seeing numerous opportunities you would have tapped into if only you were in good terms, but there’s nothing you can do about it. My advice is this; please be angry, express your anger, even keep a healthy distance if you have to but never burn bridges because tomorrow, you may just need that bridge to get to the other side.
If you want to move forward very fast, one thing you must learn to do is build and maintain strategic relationships, even with your exes, yes, I said it, with your exes (lol). And when I say strategic relationships, I don’t mean you should only fly with the high fliers or connect with people only because of what you can get from them, I mean your relationship with everyone you’ve ever know should be one that you can leverage on at anytime without hesitation. Do not look down on anyone in your present because the person may just be your lottery ticket tomorrow. Treat people right on your way up because you may just need them to lift you up on your way down another day. Remember that your network is your net worth and learn to fully utilize your network to move forward.
Someone once asked during a training, How many people would you need to call to reach the president of Nigeria?”. For some of us, we’re so close, yet so far. To wake up and move forward, there are some key questions we need to ask ourselves; what do you know? Who do you know? Do these people know that you know what you know? If they don’t, how would they refer you? Opportunities arise everyday and only the people that come to mind would be referred. Do your best to be top of mind regarding what you do in the mind of people you know. Don’t waste your network.
Sometimes, you may have to go out of your way to create those strategic alliances; a Forbes publication put it this way – Identify who you know and who you need to know to help you reach your career goal and build a power network to support your advancement. This is particularly instructive for us women as research has shown that, “While men network for transactional reasons, women will network for relational reasons. That is, men will network to obtain something, while women network for relationships and connections.” (www.forbes.com). So instead of making ‘aproko’ connections, start building strategic alliances today. Let your aspirations connect you with people and keep building your knowledge and skill base so that when the opportunity comes, you would do a great job and increase you chances of multiple referrals.
Don’t forget to share your story with us this August, you may just be inspiring someone to #WakeUpAndMove. Send your stories to [email protected] or [email protected], I’m waiting to hear from you. Also share these lessons with others via facebook, twitter, bbm, whatsapp, google+, etc. Let’s help each other #WakeUpAndMove!
By OBBIE Luya
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