Hope you are good?
At the beginning of last year, I told my boyfriend of about eight years plus that I was going to return his engagement ring if I did not see any concrete plans from him as to making our relationship permanent. It had been a recurring subject after I was made to believe our wedding would take place shortly after an amazing drama of an engagement. I did not understand the delay in us getting married because it couldn’t have been for lack of resources or anything of sort. Believe me when I said money was not the issue. I tried all I could to figure out what the issue was but all I kept getting was I should be patient with him. Really? I have known this guy for about eight years plus now but had remained engaged to him until December last year which would have made it four years since I was engaged to him. I know his family members and they know me. I took the decision to return the ring the day I wanted to find out from his elder sister if there could be any reason why their brother had been shying away from marriage after engaging me for such a long time and she replied that she had been meaning to ask me the same question. I knew there and then that something was amiss.
A couple weeks later, I went to his house to return the ring. I watched him as I handed over the ring to him, he did not show the kind of emotion a man would ordinarily show when his beloved woman threatens to go. I left him and I have left him for good. Oh, for those who might be tempted to ask, he only called that night to find out if I got home safely. Only that night.
I must confess, I cried, I wept, I mourned but most importantly, I have moved on. It is painful whenever I recall the number of guys I turned down during the course of our eight years together.
Dear Miss M,
It’s heartwarming to learn that you’ve moved on and stronger now. While I will like to refrain from making any comment as regards your last relationship, I will advise you build on the lessons and some positive things you must have picked from it and make the best of your next relationship which I believe is just around the corner that is if you are not dating again already.
I wish you all the best. Be the best woman you can be.
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