Hi LC, I need you to help resolve this for me.
I met this guy when I was staying with my dad’s family in IB. I was in SS1 and he was writing his WAEC. He got admitted into university and I later moved in with my Mum in Lagos. He has a brother who stays in Lagos and he’s a prophet. When I finished my secondary school, he came to visit his brother for the new year. He met my Mum and she grew fond of him.
The issue is he used to take me for granted, I used to visit him in school and the third time I went there, I spent 5 days. He ignored me all through and paid attention to his phone and his outings. He started having random ladies, whenever I ask him he always said they were all his school daughters. This guy takes me for granted and doesn’t care even when I complain, he just tells me to assume whatever I like. He doesn’t apologize, sometimes we fight for 6 months but he always calls my mum making me the bad person.
I got an admission into Poly; when I got to ND2, I dated someone else & got dis-flowered. When he came back a year later, I told him I am no longer a virgin, he got angry and said he has a covenant with God that he’s gonna marry a virgin. I pleaded though because the feeling was still there. Years have passed and I still get in touch with his brother. The last time I went 2 his brother’s house, he made me a soap and waist bead and told me I should go and sleep with different men that whatever I asked them they won’t hesitate to give it to me and that I must send him his percentage. I was terrified that I abstained from sex for 3 months. He called me last year that I should come to his house for the new year celebration and he demanded for Rice and Chicken but I didn’t go. He finally built a church, he’s calling me to come because he wants me to be there and that he wants to settle the quarrel between his brother and I. He mentioned some things that I must buy, some items close to 10k when am coming. Even my mum is urging me 2 go despite she knows all what have been through.
Your story broke my heart. A lot of things are not right in your relationship, I must say that you. I see deception, I see insincerity, I see wrong mindset. A whole lot is wrong.
I will advice you first of all to make a new set friends who will help you change and shift your view of life. Secondly, I don’t see anything good coming out of that relationship but the choice is yours.
Like I said, once there’s a paradigm shift, a lot of things will change in your life including the kind of people that come around you. Work on yourself, make friends that are more exposed than you, more educated than you and they will rub off on you in no time.
I had to say it as it is, I hope you will see reason with me.
All the best.
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