Please help me out, I am in a dilemma right now. Pls advice me, It’s really very urgent.
I have been dating this guy and by next month is our 2yrs of dating. Sex is involved in the relationship which I don’t really fancy. I have tried to talk to him right from the onset of the relationship, but he didn’t buy the idea of ‘No Sex’ in a relationship. This issue of Sex brought serious disagreement between us in June last year. In July he traveled to out for a business. So we don’t see, we only communicate on phone and chat on the social media. In this new year, I reminded him about the issue of Sex that I don’t need it anymore till we get married. He was so mad at me saying that I am seeing another guy here and that I don’t love him anymore. I tried to explain to him that premarital sex hinders many things in one’s life and that it brings many disadvantages, that we should preserve it until we get married. He agreed to my request under one condition, an OATH. That I will take an oath with him when he is back to Nigeria to make sure I wouldn’t leave him to another man.
Noble dear, he is on his way to Nigeria. Probably we will see tomorrow or next. I am confused, I don’t wanna take an oath with him. It’s not that I am cheating or having another guy but just that I have heard so many consequences of taking an oath and my dad once advised us a few years back that we shouldn’t take any oath with someone even if we are deeply in love.
What should I do, what is the best option. Please dear, don’t reveal my I.d.
- Do not cut any oath under any circumstance. It is not love but bondage.
- If you truly do not want to engage in sex outside marriage anymore, make that abundantly clear to him in very clear terms. He must see that resolve in your eyes.
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