It’s that time again, the time to reflect on all that has happened, the time to make changes, the time to mend relationships, the time to build new ones, the time to let go, the time to grow, the time to appreciate everything we have and all that we have lost. The year has come gradually come to an end and we are approaching a new year, with a hopeful heart and a clean slate, for most of us that is…
2016 has been the most incredible year of my life; it has been not just the weirdest but the most challenging year ever. A lot of ridiculous things happened to me in ways I still can’t explain. I was faced with the toughest decisions of my life, I was picked up, thrown against the wall to break into a million pieces but here I am still standing tall. I made new friends, I cut off ties, I felt hate, for the first time I cried my soul out for 5mins straight, I felt my heart warm, I laughed a lot , too often than not it almost got me fired every day. I lost my respect and admiration for certain people, I was done with a lot of things, and I couldn’t stand a lot of people no more.
The worst and best time of my life happened in 2016, I couldn’t believe half the stuff that went down, some I am still trying to understand “How did I get here”? A lot of crazy stuff I have done and I am probably sure I will still do them in the New Year not because I do not have a choice, I do; I am just rebellious and its fun. But in all the madness, mayhem, sadness, confusion, anger one thing has not changed is my gratitude for being able to live through it all. Words are literarily not enough to explain how grateful I am for 2016, it was tough but it was worth it. I am thankful with every fibre of my being for the opportunity, the challenges, the “oh not again”, I am thankful for a few people who got angry with me, the ones who told me to keep my cool, the ones who told me to grow some spine, and the ones that were just there to see me through it all. I would mention names but I may get punched afterwards, I am not risking this beautiful face…
You know how people set New Year resolutions on things they want to start doing and the things they won’t do no more; I am not one of them. I can never keep any of my resolutions for even 2 hours, damn! So I decided that I won’t have any more resolutions, instead I will just be me, change the things I can and let things be. I will reduce my use of “Egbami” by 75%, it will come in handy once in a while, I will try to be less vicious and rude to people who deserve it, I will not and cannot stop chasing boys; someone’s got to take that monumental responsibility. I will not stop blurting out my mind and blunt opinions because I found out that people tend to be real with you in such situations, it makes everything crystal clear for once. You know where you stand with them and what they really think of you. I am going to get my inner ear pierced, it’s weird how I don’t like or wear earrings but still have this crave for an extra piercing.
I don’t know what 2017 holds for me but I am totally sure that I am so ready and excited to go on this new adventure. I am hopeful, I am terrified, but I am thankful that I get to see it with my family and friends.
So whatever you have planned or ruled for 2017, don’t be ashamed go ahead and get do it. Face your fears, challenge yourself, have fun, don’t conform, bend the rules don’t break them (you might get in serious trouble and I won’t be able to bail you out), be yourself, surprise yourself, treat yourself good, find peace, find joy, find happiness and if you can , find love.
Finally and most importantly, as we pray and do our various crossovers into the New Year, please, please and please I beg and urge you not to forget our brothers and sisters in the Middle East, they have had a terrible 2016, Let’s keep them in our prayers- Aleppo, Tehran, Iraq and the rest of the Middle East, they deserve nothing but love, peace and the opportunity to live a normal life. Let us pray for peace, justice and preservation of humanity, their homes may have been torn down but not their faith, let us come together as a people and restore peace in the Middle East.
I am wishing you all a breathtaking, magical , inspiring 2017, I hope all your dreams come true and you find whatever it is you are looking for….
La Rose Noire