When it comes to relationships, there are different characteristics that guys exhibit. This is not by any means an exhaustive description of the male psyche, but rather, an attempt to highlight some of the glaring attributes found in men, particularly as it pertains to relationships. However subtle, I am sure most guys would clearly class themselves into some of the categories below; while ladies will easily spot which categories best describe their men, or the guys they know.
The Advertiser: His is not stingy with words when they have to do with himself. He is all too eager to highlight, explain, describe, and put forward rather emphatically, his qualities, his strengths, his achievements and accolades. He is never tired of recounting what he has achieved. He is fiercely competitive, and quite often (although not always) successful. Every achievement in his life goes on air as soon as it is made. He shows off his new car, clothes, new expensive smart phone, job, business, you name it. If he is to travel to an exotic destination, say somewhere abroad, everyone gets to know beforehand, and when he returns, he is bristling with incredible stories. Suffice it to say that some of them he makes up to embellish his experience and worth. He is ferociously argumentative and aggressively opinionated. Even in the face of defeat, he rarely admits to losing an argument. He is rarely wrong! If he is after a girl, be rest assured, he would flaunt his entire array of achievements to win her over. He is the type to stand by an assortment of expensive cars to take numerous pictures, which will quickly go on his Facebook wall. He likes to have friends over, so they get a taste and feel of his elaborate house/apartment. He gladly shows them around, describing every expensive piece in detail.
He can be quite charismatic, which makes him some sort of a magnet for girls. Needless to say that he is more likely to keep a string of girlfriends at the same time, especially if he is truly successful in an economic sense. He can’t help himself when it comes to recognition and attention. He thrives on those. When he is not getting maximum attention, he would configure ingenious ways to draw a good dose of it to himself. He is likely to be domineering, even among his friends and within the family. For girls, if you are dating an advertiser, you are likely to have your way with him, to a reasonable extent if you can massage his ego – praise his every little achievement, and don’t try to put him down. Ignore his mistakes as much as possible, and if you must point them out, do so with adroit skill, because he tends to handle criticism very poorly. He loves to be right, and most times, ‘right’ is simply how he sees life. If he does fall deeply in love, he idolizes his woman. She becomes an achievement; something he has to show off like every other achievement he has made in life. Emotionally he is upbeat, and he knows how to avoid those who do not offer him the type of attention/recognition he craves. They drain his energy, so he keeps them at arm’s length. He is a sweet talker, as far as he gets his desire. Afterwards, all the talk would have to center on him and him alone.
The Talkative: He shares some attributes with the advertiser in that he likes to talk, but in this case, not necessarily about himself. He is stimulated by communication. He is easily bored. Being around people energizes him. He thrives on the energy of groups. Most times, he is likely to need a push to get things done, but when it comes to talking, no one beats him to it. Not in all cases though, but at times, he fills the void in his life by talking. He is the type that can make up a story on the go, and entertain any crowd without invitation. He is likely to make a good comedian if he strives hard enough towards it. He is apt to be very kind as he loves people, but may not have as much energy and charisma to achieve the means to help people as much as he would like. There is never a dull moment with him. Even when he seems down and out in life, he finds a way to laugh and make others laugh. He is a big dreamer. He thinks up this and that, but don’t bank on him to achieve them, unless someone shepherds him, drives and pushes him. He can easily weave an imaginary world around himself to get through hard times. If he is in a relationship with a driven, but kind, tender, loving and smart woman, she is likely to be the driving force in his life. She might be the one to show him his strengths and steer him to success, slowly but surely. He tends to speak from his heart, which suggests that very often, he is a loyal person. His people-oriented nature makes him fun to be around, at home and at work.
The Talker: He is the more rounded guy. He handles situations with panache. He is likely to be more confident, well read, poised, determined, and smart. He does not talk too much – he simply knows how and when to talk, and when he does, everyone wants to hear what he has to say. As a result, he commands respect. He is likely to handle life’s challenges better. He has the propensity to be a good guy, a great listener, a reliable friend, a good boyfriend or husband. However, if his morals and values are not in order, his smartness, ability to whip up respect among people and read situations well can make him dangerous. He is likely to manipulate situations and people to his favor. You are likely to find him in politics or in business. He can be very convincing that most girls would easily fall for him. If his morals are in good shape, he is the best friend or mate anyone could have. He goes the extra mile for others. Often, he quietly but steadily solves everyone else’s problems. When he is on the negative end of the moral spectrum, expect him to be an addictive player with girls, and they will be willing to die for him. He is often organized, thinks and plans into the future, and he despises not being successful, so he works hard to be accomplished. Unlike the advertiser, he does not brandish he accomplishments though.
The Quiet: He is the sharp opposite of the advertiser and the talkative. Talking is such hard work for him. He is likely to be trampled upon by people as he tends to avoid trouble. He is likes to keep to himself. He is a very loyal and reliable person as far as his morals have not been subtly perverted. When you get to know him, he is a very fun person to be around, but it might take a while to know him well. His girlfriend or wife may have to fight for him most times, as he is very likely to let things slide in his dealings with people. His mate would be constantly making sure he is not taken advantage of. He is definitely primarily introverted, and often secondarily introverted, and in rare cases secondarily extroverted. A quiet guy with a secondary extroverted temperament often makes an incredible mate. He can be amazingly romantic with his wife or girlfriend. He is very comfortable within his inner circle and they will often speak of what a wonderful guy he is. Amongst close friends and family, he is very fun to be around, possibly funny too.
For the quiet type with an introverted nature both primarily and secondarily, his mate would sometimes beg him to talk. She would constantly wonder what is going on in his head. He tends to keep things to himself, without planning to; he is simply like that. Don’t expect him to be incredibly romantic as he might struggle expressing his emotions. He may want to, but it is such a difficult thing for him – he just does not know how to. He is teachable though, due to his docile nature, so if you date this type of guy, rather than complain and fight over his extreme lack of romanticism, you may have to constantly tell him what you want, politely. With time, he is likely to get it, although women don’t like to be the one telling their man how to be romantic towards them as it takes away the fun elements of spontaneity and surprise in romance.
So, where do you find yourself? Or, where do you place your mate/guy friends/work colleagues? It has to be noted though that some guys are a blend of two or more of these temperaments depending on the mixture of genes they inherited from their parents.
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