This thing called marriage!
I have read tons of interesting materials on dating, marriage and the family. I mean very interesting materials that when you are done reading, you will be convinced you have been adequately armed with the right knowledge on the subject matter.
However, at the end of every material, I usually go away with a notion that a lot work and effort, understanding and tolerance are needed for marriage to work. In fact, there’s this saying about marriage that has stuck with me for some years now. Someone said, ”there’s a lot of work behind every marriage that is working.” A lot of work doesn’t sound fun, does it?
Daily, we wake up to the news of divorce and acrimony in marriages and this is on the rise. I have read comments where most people are quick to judge couples whose marriages have hit the rocks or going through rough patches. People say things like, ”they must have overlooked some red flags when they were dating.” I have heard others complain of ”lack of intolerance.” I am not saying these comments are not right but has it ever crossed your mind that majority of these couples are usually excited on their wedding days. Some of them in some cases must have courted for a long period of time.
I know marriage is good and exciting union but somehow it looks like the church and the society have got it all wrong with the way it is presented. Most times marriage is presented as a therapy for unhappiness, lack or insufficiency. As if once one is married, ”old things will pass away and all things will become new.
To my question to LC women who are married, is marriage overrated? Is there anything like ”happily ever after in marriage?”
Please Hephzibah, help me post this to your LC WOMEN column.
Thank you and I look forward to a healthy debate on this subject.
Susan (I am a concerned single lady)