Broke guys are no longer attractive and fast losing sympathy from ladies. Check out what we mean in the following articles written by different ladies on the subject.
”People need to understand that every girl who likes expensive things or wants to have a successful and financially stable man by her side is not a gold digger. Yes, there are gold diggers all over this place in their Giuseppe Zanottise and Beyoncé worthy thousand-dollar hair extensions and wigs, but here is the difference: a good and smart woman appreciates a man’s financial resources, but a gold digger only appreciates his financial resources.
When you want to build a life with someone, you need to be able to rely on him or her physically, mentally, emotionally and yes, at times, financially. Knowing that you can ask your man for things is a lovely feeling for both you and the man. You feel protected and he feels he has played his part.
By saying that I do not want a broke man, I’m not saying I want someone I can leech on. There is nothing as unattractive as a freeloader. I would never coast along on some guy’s money, so I don’t want anyone in my life who could possibly do that to me. I am not unwilling to play my role in being smart and independent in my own right, either.
Personally, I take a guy’s lack of money in his adult years as a serious indication of problems in other areas. It could be a sign that he has issues that have kept them from having stable employment. Wouldn’t it be preferable to go with a guy who has a good pay cheque, knowing that they would probably be a better match?
Even more, if he is that unmotivated and reluctant to do what it takes to hold down a good job or succeed for himself, how will he step up in the relationship? Will he be proactive and work on our problems together, or take the same passive approach that he has taken in his career? These are questions that warrant careful consideration.
The broke guys who tend to shame women for “gold digging” tend to be very misogynistic, hateful, and unmotivated to actually improve their lives. Yes, sometimes people have setbacks. Stuff happens. Life happens. But it is all about the ambition and the drive. If 99% of the time if you’re still borrowing money from your people or freeloading, you are bad news.
No woman should ever feel compelled to be with a guy who is not financially capabale simply because she is afraid of what people will think of her. There is ABSOLUTELY nothing wrong with wanting a guy who is finically stable. It does not make you a gold digger It makes you financially smart! It is what it is.”
”Young lady, dating a broke guy is one of the worst things you can do to yourself. Even if you are on a mission to hurt yourself, kindly stay away from broke and entitled guys. They are nothing but bad news.
One of the reasons you shouldn’t punish yourself with such guys is that they have no business dating in the first place. What can someone who hasn’t figured out his life offer you as a woman?
If a man doesn’t know where he’s headed in life or what he wants to do to make money, what does he need you for? He should go and figure out his life first before looking for where to sweat and release his semen. Being broke is not a virtue.
Dating a broke guy is bad. Don’t do that to yourself especially if you are an ambitious, hardworking and successful lady. Don’t listen to people who tell you that maybe God brought you into his life to lift him out of the pit of financial lack. You are not Jesus. You can only support him but you can’t make money on his behalf. He needs to do that himself.
A broke guy who is in relationship is not being true to himself. You don’t expect a woman to love you when you don’t even love your broke self. Instead of mounting pressure on your woman to put up with you when you are broke, go and make legit money.
A woman shouldn’t be expected to bear the burden of a broke man. That’s unfair. Even an independent woman who is not interested in a man’s money doesn’t have to settle for a man who is broke. She needs a man who is focused, one who has vision and the one who knows what he wants out of life and not one who can’t even take care of himself.
Ladies, you won’t be at peace dating a broke guy. He will keep complaining about your clothes, your hair, your house and the things you can afford. He will emotionally blackmail you with his inability to catch up with you financially. Stay away from such distraction.
A broke man will claim that the reason you keep talking to him anyhow is that you are richer than him. Let him go far. You don’t need such a man around you. He will destroy your destiny with his broke, inferior self. Leave him alone to go find his level before he uses his reggae to spoil your blues.
Ladies, don’t be carried away by emotions. Love doesn’t pay house rent, pay for power bills, hospital bills or buy foodstuffs. Love without money is punishment. You must stay away from that kind of love. If he doesn’t fit into your lifestyle and plans for the future, leave him alone. You shouldn’t be punishing yourself like that.
A broke man needs time alone to figure out his life and not go about dumping his frustrations on different women in the name of dating. You may jump into conclusion that girls don’t want to date broke guys because they have nothing to offer financially, but no girl came to this world to suffer on behalf of any man. The relationship will be full of anger, frustrations and unnecessary fights. Who needs all that stress in Nigeria of today?
A relationship with a broke guy is boring. There’s nothing exciting about moaning and complaining about money when the guy is doing nothing to change his condition. When your mates are going out with their men, showing them proudly to everyone they meet, you are stuck with your broke guy indoors sweating. Even sex with him is hell.
Dating a broke guy means courting disgrace. It is annoying that he is not buying you things, but he feels entitled to complain about the things you buy for yourself. Whether you want to hear it or not, money will cause fight between you and your broke boyfriend. Little things will cause big fights when a broke man is in the mix. The stress is not worth it. Let him date himself.
It is funny that broke guys demand excessive respect. Even rich guys who can afford to buy expensive things for their women don’t demand too much respect as broke guys do. They have this false sense of entitlement that makes putting up with their lack of money hard. The issue is not being broke but demanding respect when you don’t offer your woman anything but anger and frustration.
Nigerian men are quick to insult girls who say they can’t date broke men. Instead of focusing their energy on making money, they are tearing their boxers over a woman’s decision to stay away from broke men. If you are broke, you don’t have a business dating a woman. You will add to her problems. Sort yourself out first.
Ladies, you shouldn’t be sleeping with a broke guy. You have no business sharing a bed with a man who has nothing to offer himself. You have to love yourself enough to stay away from broke guys. It is a waste of time.”
”I’m not a gold digger — not one little bit — I’m just sick of this generation of guys, many of whom just can’t seem to get their act together. I don’t think it’s too much to ask for a dude who has a car, a job, and a place to live. Call me crazy, but I’ve dated enough broke dudes and I’m not doing it anymore!
1. HE DOESN’T HAVE TO BE RICH, BUT HE CAN’T BE A DEADBEAT.Too much money makes me uncomfortable, but no money makes me frustrated. I can’t relate to a guy who has tons of nice things. Our priorities just aren’t the same. On the other hand, we aren’t in college. I don’t want someone who spends his days sitting on the couch smoking weed and watching sports while bemoaning his lack of funds. Go do something about it, bro.
2. I DON’T WANT TO BE WITH ANY MORE GUYS WHO MAKE LESS MONEY THAN I DO.It’s not like I’m a billionaire in the making. I work hard, I do OK and I pay my bills. If I need more money, I work more. The math is simple. It’s depressing dating someone who makes less than I do who has no desire to up his game. I’m all for feminism and strong women and I support role reversal and all that. It’s just that I don’t make enough to support us both. Sorry.”
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