We are excited to bring you another interesting episode of our Road to Motherhood series. Mrs. Emily Wale-Koya, a professional public speaker and mentor is our guest and she tells a very interesting story of her road to motherhood. Enjoy!
Tell us a bit about yourself?
I’m Emily Wale-Koya, a lover of God, professional public speaker and mentor. I hail from Rivers State, Nigeria, where I currently reside with my adorable family. I am a wife to one man and proud mother of two kids.
I am also the founder of The Multi-million Brand Academy, a 12 months online coaching program that helps women build powerful personal brands, launch online businesses that allow them do what/work they love, earn six figures and more.
How long have you been married now?
6 years, would be 7 years in June, 2016.
How large is your family?
We are a family of three (for now); my husband, 6 year old daughter and 3 year old son. We are currently expecting another child.
So tell us, what does it feel like transiting from being a single lady to becoming a wife and a mother? You know, the fears, the concerns, the challenges, the special feelings and all.
For me, it was a truly unique experience. My husband, who was my fiancée back then proposed to me three times with an engagement ring and all three times, I said ‘’a clean no’’. but the third time, he took my finger anyway, and put the ring on it. It was an experience I relieve everyday. I wasn’t sure I wanted to be married to him or anyone else. I just wasn’t ready to be married by anyone. But thank God, I began to enjoy my engagement days and today, I totally dig my marriage to him.
Were there challenges in trying to conceive?
Not at all, but giving birth was somewhat challenging.
What was your reaction when you find out that you were pregnant with your first child?
My husband and I were definitely excited about it. I recall us both running the pregnancy test together in the bathroom one morning. We were so thrilled and expectant. I carried that particular pregnancy with confidence, joy and gratitude to God.
What was your most common food craving, or most unusual craving?
Honestly, I don’t remember much about that. But I think I hated the smell of onions and garlic so much. I ate lots of noodles too.
Did you enjoy being pregnant especially the first pregnancy and what was the experience like?
Being pregnant felt really cool for me. It certainly looked good on me too. I maintained a perfect weight throughout the 9 months of pregnancy, and this made me feel so blessed as a wife, woman and soon to be mum.
Where were you, what were you doing when you went into labour?
It was my birthday on the 11th of March 2010, so my husband took me out to have dinner. We returned home together and I started feeling labour pains, or so I thought. I quickly packed my bag and headed straight to the hospital.
What was your labour experience? How long were you in labour?
I was in labour throughout the night from 9 pm till 4 am. Shockingly too, my labour wasn’t advancing and my blood pressure was surging. This made my doctors perform a cesarean surgery (CS) on me.
Explain how you felt when you set your eyes on your baby?
Aww! It was angelic and felt magical. It was like being injected with new life from God. My daughter was simply adorable and I felt so blessed holding her in my arms.
Was your hubby with you in the labour room?
Yes he was.
If he wasn’t in the first, has he ever been in the labour room with you?
He was in the first, but couldn’t make the second, because by the time he arrived the US from Nigeria, our second baby was born. (he missed it by a few hours).
What is the name of your first child and what informed the choice of that name?
My daughters names are as follows: Olamide Gabriella Ibifuro (Wale-Koya). All three names point her to God and the majestic power of His saving grace..
As a working class lady, the birth of a new child can be challenging. How did you manage your responsibilities at the home front and at work?
I work for myself; I always have and always will. So for me, my schedules weren’t so tight and frustrating. I concentrated on being there for my new daughter. I breastfed her for six months (baby friendly) without water or any type of food. I did the same thing for my son.
What part about having a new responsibility bothered you the most?
Not being financially capable to assist my husband to provide for our new family.
How did you have to prepare specially for the birth of your baby, what did you do both mentally and otherwise.
I spoke to God a lot. I read a book called Supernatural Childbirth too and both helped me develop the mindset I needed to journey successfully in this.
It is believed in some quarters that the arrival of a child has a way of effecting spouses’ relationships. Is it true and how did you handle it in your case?
Yes it is true to a large extent. For me, I made and still make sure I live intentionally and consciously. I don’t run my marriage or life on impulse, I plan a lot. I think and see the outcome/result/consequences of my actions before I embark on any.
What advice do you have for single lady who is hoping to raise a family in the future and also be able to manage the home front successfully?
Chase after God with your whole heart and as if your life depended on it. As a matter of fact, your life does depend on him truly. Honestly and consciously allow His Spirit to lead you; he’s your best teacher now and forever.
There’s a special feeling that comes with being a mother. Can you put it words for us?
Words may fail me, but being blessed with the fruit of the womb is truly a super blessing. Having children you can call your own is super duper blessing.
Words to live by
Love God deeply now and forever! He is all that matters indeed.
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