If my dad had said no about this time almost three years ago, maybe it wouldn’t have generated so much controversies and bad blood which now trail his recent reaction when I showed him my engagement ring from Chuks. I have known Chuks for about five years now, same with everyone in our house. We only started dating about two years plus now. It was not a hidden relationship. My parents have always been advocates of making our relationships known to them as early as possible so we could be guided rightly. As far as I know, we all know who all of us (my brothers and sisters) are dating. And when they suddenly stopped seeing the boys around us or the girls around my brothers, they query to find out what happened. They just want to know.
There’s usually the official ”mom, dad, meet my friend.” Trust my parents, they will take their time in scrutinizing whoever we present to them. Many guys dread that moment. We the ladies love that process; it has saved us from troubles and unwanted embarrassment many times. It has made us to choose our friends very carefully. My parents have a simple philosophy about making friends with the opposite sex; they will tell you to only make friends with boys are good enough to become our husbands or for our brothers, girls who are good enough to become wives, just in case. As I was saying before, any boy who survived and scaled through my parents’ scrutiny automatically becomes a member of the family, they stand to enjoy the welcome, the warmth and the food. Yes, you must never turn down my mother’s food. My brothers hardly show up with ladies in the house,however, when they do, they bring home ladies with impeccable qualities. So that has been the tradition in our house for as as long as I can remember.
I guess you understand it clearly now when I said Chuks is not a stranger to the house and that is why I was shell-shocked when my dad did not accept Chuks after these years especially given the fact that he had never complained or said anything negative about him. I could not believe my ears. I was expecting him to throw his arms open for a warmth embrace from him just like he did for my elder sister. He was not excited, he did not betray any emotion. He drew my closer and began to speak in parables to me. The long and short of his parable is that he’s not comfortable with Chuks. The same Chuks he has known for years now? My excitement flew through the windows, I spent the whole of the evening all alone in my room. My mother came in from time to time to say some words. She’s in support of her husband. Not because of anything but for the mere fact that her husband said no. The only explanation my dad had given so far is that there’s something about Chucks that’s not very clear to him. He claims he’s struggling to place what it is,however, he had made it abundantly clear to me that he will not give any of his daughters away to a man he’s not very comfortable with. My mother advises I listen to my dad.
I love Chucks with all my heart. He’s the kind of man I will love to spend the rest of my life with. I said yes to him, my dad said no to my yes. my mother is on the side of my dad. Chuks and I are still persuading my dad to review his stand or tell us in clear terms what the issue is. I know i can be stubborn but I deep down in me. I’m not sure I will love to go contrary to my dad’s decision. Especially given the fact that he’s a very hospitable one. That news did not go down well with Chuks.