One of the headaches which come with you falling in love and realizing that she is your significant other is what to gift her on those special days like birthdays, anniversaries and milestones. You don’t want to give her something which you would have to apologize for, you don’t want to give her something for which she would have to feign appreciation for, and you don’t want to give her something she can get for herself.
You want your gift to make her smile genuinely and maybe earn you a scream of glee and an accompanying kiss. As it is with anything worth doing, it is worth doing well.
However, getting it done right doesn’t mean you have to see it as a pain in the neck. It is possible to get your wife or fiancée or girlfriend truly happy when you gift them something. Today, I will be sharing some tips which can make the experience easier and before long you will be a pro at giving the perfect gift.
Before I give you the tips, I need you to have two sets of information in mind; what category of women she falls into and what her love language is.
It has been said that all women fall into one or a mixture of the following categories;
- The Entertainer
- The Beauty Queen
- The Woman Who Has Everything
- The Fashionista
- The Go-Getter
Having this information gives some clarity on what a gift for your woman should be like.
Also, her love language plays a role in the full appreciation or not of your gift. According to Gary Chapman, there are five love languages in which that of every human falls into;
- The first love language is words of affirmation. A woman with this love language feels the most loved when she hears words of appreciation or affection.
- The second love language is acts of service. A woman with this love language feels the most loved when you do actions for her, like taking over a chore.
- The third love language is receiving gifts. A woman with this love language feels most loved when you shower her with gifts.
- The fourth love language is quality time. To a woman with this love language, spending time with you is the most important thing.
- The fifth love language is physical touch. To a woman with this love language, being close to you is important. She will treasure holding hands and having intimate moments.
Bearing this information in mind, let’s get down to the business of pleasing your madam with your gifts.
First Things First.
It is said that the right questions lead to the right answers. You need to ask yourself some confrontational questions to be sure she is with you. By being with you, I mean she sees you too as her significant other. This is first because if she is not where you are in love, chances are she wouldn’t appreciate whatever you give her, or she would not recognize your efforts.
Be sure she is not feeling angry with you too because some anger breeds doubts in relationships. If you are sure of where you both stand, then move on to the next step.
Planning is key when it comes to achieving great results. You need to have planned ahead, armed with the right information. You don’t want to be running helter-skelter and making avoidable mistakes because you ran out of time or are yet to put some finishing touches to your gifts. Plan ahead and …
We are talking about pleasing women. Everyone one knows how complicated the mind of a woman is, so it would be inadvisable to just venture into this task without thinking. You need to prove to her that you know her; you have to prove that you have been paying close attention! Many times people say that it is the gesture that matters but the truth is that you have to prove that it is a thoughtful gesture.
Thinking will also help you realize what the gift is about as shown in the next point.
It Is Not About You.
There’s a mistake many people make when giving gifts. They give what they like. They give what they appreciate. They forget that the gift is about the receiver and not the giver. You need to constantly remind yourself of this truth. You may see a red dress and conclude that it would look good on your wife, what if she doesn’t want a dress or she doesn’t like the colour red? When giving her a gift, have in mind her interests, the things she likes, her love language(s), and the category of women she falls into. This would help you know the lane to tread in getting her the perfect gift.
What Is She Saying?
If a man listens attentively and long enough he would hear his woman give a clue of what she really wants and so would appreciate it as a gift. Another option which not many men are bold enough to take is to ask the woman. It is understandable that you want your gift to surprise her and so this can be achieved by having her make a list of things she wants, that way she won’t know what item on the list you will be giving her.
Listen to her words; listen to her heart.
So, there you have them; tips to help you make better decisions when it comes to gifting your woman. One mistake many men make is entertaining the thought that their woman should simply like their gifts because it came from them. Not so. Let me break the cliché, it is not the gesture that counts, it is the results that count.
Bearing the love language in mind, we see that each woman has the kind of gifts she would love. You wife may just want you to fix the sliding door, or she may just want a weekend trip for just the two of you or she may just want you to let her know you appreciate the efforts she puts in and you have to find the perfect way to let her know.
There are many ways to do this.
Go get her the perfect gift.