It’s Man Cave Monday!
“He never listens to me! He has selective hearing ability!”
That has been the complaint of many women about their men. This has made men believe that no one can understand the mind of a woman. So the question is, ‘How else can a man listen?’
Good news! I’m here to tell you how to listen to a woman. I mean, I’m going to tell you how you can win the award of “The Most Attentive Man Of The Year”.
Wondering how? Follow these tips and see.
Remove Every Distraction.
This is not a time to watch a match between Manchester United and Chelsea FC or watch a wrestling match, or whatever else it is that men watch. Neither should you choose that time to read the news about the upcoming election. There are a thousand different things which can pose as a distraction at this time your woman sees as important. Remove. Them. All. Focus on your woman and what she is saying. She is trying to pass across a message and if she is important to you, you should be interested in what she’s about to say. So, remove every distraction, and give her all your attention. She is speaking because she thinks you are important. Don’t be distracted.
Maintain Eye Contact.
After you have removed all the distractions, maintain eye contact with her. The best listeners use their eyes and their ears. What the ears don’t hear because it was not said, the eyes reveals from observation. When your eyes are on her, you see what she’s not even saying. You see her earnestness and understand the emotions behind her words. Maintaining eye contact will also help you appreciate her beauty more.
Listen To Understand.
The number one reason why you are listening to your woman is to understand what she is trying to pass across. This means that everything you do, your questions, your nods and your body language should show that you aim to understand what you are being told. Your aim is to understand and understand truly what she tells you. To understand, you listen to her emotions, her gestures and her body language. Women are emotional beings and their emotions tell more than their words tell, in most cases. The emotions also influence their gestures and other means of communication. If you don’t aim to understand, you’d miss those subtle signs which show or reveal the true message she is trying to pass across to you.
Don’t Try To Fix Everything.
A woman’s best friend knows that many times a woman talks to unburden her heart. She doesn’t need unsolicited advice. When your woman is talking to you, listen to understand and show her that she is understood. Don’t listen so you can show her what she is doing wrong or teach her what she should have done better. No. Just show her that she’s not alone. Maybe take her in your arms and calmly ask her questions which will help her explain better to you. This is one of the hardest things for a man because, generally, men share their worries to get solutions. So, when a man is listening, he may think that he is being asked for solutions or advice. That’s not how it is with women. All the woman wants to know is that she is understood and that you are in her corner and by her side. If she needs your advice, she will ask you to tell her what to do. Until she does, please just let her know you understand and sooth her feelings.
Take Note Of The Language Of Women.
We’ve heard it said that men are from Mars and women are from Venus. While this is used figuratively, it is true that the thinking patterns of men and women are different, most times. A woman could be saying 123, and the man hears XYZ, so he responds with ABC when the woman was expecting 789, confusing, right? My point exactly. In addition to the above tips, you have to ask questions so that you don’t misunderstand what your woman is trying to say. You have to calmly show her that you need to understand that she truly means XYZ because that’s what you heard. Another way to know her language is to study your woman. Even though women are from Venus, there are no two women who are the same. If you study her, listen to her emotions, and ask her questions, 8 times out of 10 you’d get the message she’s trying to pass across to you.
The reason the above tips are effective is because they send one message, “I am totally interested in you and whatever you have to say. Nothing is more important to me than knowing you are happy”. That is what women want.
Men consider women hard to understand mainly because they speak different languages and also because women are more emotional and their emotions need to be listened to. If the above tips are adhered to and applied rightly to the different women, you will win your woman’s heart all over again. A woman may truly be a puzzle, but you have been given tips on how to decode the mystery and solve the puzzle. Use it.
Go win that award!